Reciprocity is the act of creating, maintaining, or augmenting social relationships as well as satisfying the material needs of someone who may have necessities beyond their current means.  There are the elevated charitable works of individuals or companies that donate to larger networks of human need.  These are deeds of generalized reciprocity.  Those wanting to contribute to solving homelessness, defeating hunger, even the act of giving blood for the nations’ hospitals.  Sadly, there is the demonstration of negative reciprocity.  Gang members repeatedly practice this behavior in retaliatory acts as a non-cooperative faction.  If a certain member of the group decides to leave and join another band, however geographically distant, the original gang will travel there to inflict reprisal on that individual. 

In your community or workplace, are you seeing acts of negative reciprocity?  How many ways can you demonstrate appreciation of others in your professional department or division with spontaneous deeds of reciprocity?   Could emotional issues in the family or workplace be defused by a sudden act of kindness by you?   And, does it have to be something associated with money or some task they can never seem to get to?

Anxious to hear your views!

Leesburg, VA – - – May 2, 2012 – - – Walks Beside Coaching & Consulting (WBCC), an accomplished coaching company with affiliate coaches in Virginia, Maryland, and Washington, DC reported today their experience and results as workshop presenters for the annual conference of the Training Officers Consortium (TOC).  Each year, trainers from federal agencies attend a multi-day conference to expand their skills through learning experiences, and product demonstrations from selected vendors.  This year’s event was held at the Clarion Resort in Ocean City, Maryland, during April 22-25, 2012.

 “We recognize that every day, each of us has the chance to be recognized as a ‘master’ of our personal and professional excellence, engaging in conversations that should be the showcase of our gifts in service to others.  But what happens when we find that our efforts are sabotaged by abrupt conversation resulting in discussions that appear to be in conflict & confrontational?  This is a principal part of our work with all industries or government agencies.  We conducted a workshop titled, How to Have the Difficult Workplace Conversations Using the N.I.C.E. Model”, saidStephan Marais, an executive coach in the company. 

 WBCC has helped many companies with customized services for executives, and teams, in their ability to have difficult conversations without disrespect or anger.  As many companies now have multi-cultural and multi-generational workforces, it not uncommon for senior staff and inexperienced managers to leave business conversations in high emotional states.  As Stephan relates, “Whether to resolve conflict, dissolve team polarities or simply stop unacceptable behavior, our model of N.I.C.E., can be used as an instrument for resolution.  We found that the majority of managers in our session had all experienced some kind of situation where their business conversation had been met with resentment or hostility.”  Having been at C-level positions in several companies, WBCC brings their business experience to help organizations provide environments that foster conversations without blame, punishment or the fear of retribution. 

 WBCC constructs business solutions around the achievement of business goals, the renewal of burnt out workforces; and, the integration of a diverse generational labor force.  These programs enable companies to synchronize ideas with clear language use for successful repeatable outcomes, both locally and nationally. 

 About Walks Beside Coaching & Consulting:

WBCC has a seasoned team shaping the resilience of business life, increasing self-identity, and assisting in the transitional life chapters of all workforces.  A unique service of our company is ontological coaching, instead of just performance coaching.  WBCC provides structured, yet personalized processes, for guidance using all the elements of language skills, leadership presence; and, the avoidance of knee jerk emotions on decision-making. 

 Bradley Ann Morgan andStephan Maraisare certified professional coaches through the Professional Coaching Certification (PCC) programs of Newfield Network.  They are members of the International Coaching Federation (ICF), the Passion 2 Profit Entrepreneurs (P2P), and the US Women’s Chamber of Commerce; and, are the former Publication Chairs for the ICF chapters of Orange County, CA and Santa Fe, NM. 

 Press Contact:

Bradley Ann Morgan, MS, PCC

Company Name: Walks Beside Coaching & Consulting

Email: bam@walksbesidecoaching.com

Phone: 703-999-1691

Website: www.walksbesidecoaching.com

Often when people are faced with challenges that prompt them to grow they fall back into familiar patterns or safe behaviors.  Many studies have demonstrated that the first emotional response to far reaching vision statements or solving global issues is fear.  How can you present a colossal idea, tapping the aliveness in your colleagues?

What are your suggestions, or past actions taken, to bring out the aliveness for large visions or causes?  We would love to hear from all of you on this one.

When you need to release toxic relationships or behaviors, ask yourself:

• Has anything changed in the other person’s financial status or family environment?  Could they just be reacting to other circumstances, not you directly at this moment?
• Was the relationship established on equal standing from the beginning?  Or, was this relationship created on what you can provide, not what the other could provide for you in emotional welfare?  Has your level of trust been abused?

We look forward to your thoughts & comments on this topic.

Why does this happen?  It is often accepted that ‘thank you’ is not deserved for fulfilling your job description.  Or, it is a common convention that each of us has the same work ethic regardless of culture, educational degrees, or generational profile? 

• Do you crave words of appreciation from others that you cannot express yourself
• How many times in the last year have you chosen not to convey thanks to colleagues for a job well done?  Did you make time to return later and express a sincere thanks?  How did you feel afterwards?

Love to hear your thoughts, comments, and events around this topic.

• Are we educated enough to know what it is we don’t know about this product, project, or company initiative?  What other resources do we truly need to make this decision effective in the competitive market space or industry?
• How can we provide for factors that might change because of this decision, lose market share, increased employee turnover, or even a resulting merger?  What risks can we anticipate and reduce our vulnerabilities?

Let’s hear your thoughts or comments about this post or how you developed your judgment skills.

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